Intro to Enneagram Type 9
A few weeks ago, I got great feedback on my article Enneagram Type 5 vs Enneagram Type 4. Everyone enjoyed it, and everyone complained that it was too long. So, this week I am breaking up the normally almost 2500 word blog posts into several 300-500 word posts. If you liked the long version, don’t worry I will release it at the end of the week. Since I am breaking up the posts into bite-size bits, you might want to check this one to get a better introduction into the series. Now here is the intro into an Enneagram Type 9, peace. My intro article to the Enneagram Type 9 is here.
Type 9: Healed – Calm
You know which Enneagram number is most to just sit there and chill, appearing to do nothing? The Type 5. Most Enneagram Types just want to do something. Type 5’s just want to learn something. Perhaps the most passive action, anyone can take most of the time. Type 5’s enjoy a calm environment because it is often the best environment to sit back and take in some massive amount of information.
I can’t imagine a much better use of time for a Type 9. Since Type 5’s don’t get agitated by new information or feel the need to put it into action immediately, there is rarely a fuss. The peace, the quiet, or the calm is rarely disturbed. It is a nice break from everyone else and having to keep the peace. We just do our thing independently, no handling required.
Mother-In-Law Peace
So we think my Mother-in-Law is a Type 9. I don’t know anyone who actually enjoys his mother-in-law, but I do. I genuinely appreciate her quirks and all that she does for me and my family. She is great. It took her a little while to get that I just want to be left alone most of the time, but she is one of the few people to actually do it. It’s really great for me, but I think she likes me too.
I don’t need a lot, and I am always willing to try to make things smoother. I know she prefers things to run smoothly keeping everyone happy (kinda like a Type 2, but realizes that alone is sometimes the best thing). My quirks don’t quite irk her as much as others. She easily accounts for them, or we just move through it for the sake of everyone else. I think she just likes that I always want to bring the calm, the quiet, or at least a joyful peace.
I don’t know anyone who actually enjoys his mother-in-law, but I do. #enneagram9 Click To TweetType 5: Healed – Not invaded
No one gets that Type 5’s do not like to be invaded except for the occasional Type 4 or Type 9’s. Get mildly agitated from having your space invaded and Type 9’s notice. They remember, and then they don’t do it often. It’s amazing. Everyone and everything in my life invade. Kids scream, cry, wail, jump on, wrestle, poke, tickle or whatever sort of invasion they can concoct. Wives want to talk to you… like all the time. I still don’t really know what that is all about maybe once we hit our ten year anniversary.
Family, friends, and strangers invade. The phone buzzes incessantly (unless you put it on do not disturb, but someone will get through). It is so nice to not be invaded. Your mind, your space, everything can just relax when Type 9’s are around. Yeah, they might need or something, but I can’t remember the last time I was invaded by a Type 9.
Maybe they don’t have the energy for it. Maybe they know the turbulence it creates for a Type 5. I don’t know, but the peace a Type 9 brings is beautiful and criminally underappreciated by other Enneagram Types. If you want to get some healing, find a Type 9, and get access to their peace.
